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How do I Femboy V2

The label “Femboy” is a complicated one to say the least, and contains many contradictions in it’s own. A couple of the main things that could either classify or declassify you as a correct holder of the femboy label are listed in: 1: An Opening Statement 2: Gender Identity, 3: Motives/Desire, and 4: Appearance.

1.An Opening Statement: A femboy is essentially the antonymn to a tomboy; from a certain viewpoint. In a simple explanation, a femboy is simply an individual who classifies themselves in gender as a male, and expresses qualities more commonly associated and accepted in females. Being a Feminine male means you are a living creature of the typically masculine variety, who has an interest to be in touch with the softer, more beautiful side of (them)self, and acts upon that desire. A feminine man is not weak, nor is he automatically more submissive. A femboy is person who has the balls to go outside, and proudly represent who they are. (no pun intended) We are entirely capable of being your total full fledged badass. We just wanna look great/cute doin’ it. The point of what I’m saying is, being a femboy doesn’t decide how you act or how you interact. Plenty of femboys are gamers, paintballers, mechanics, whatever they feel like. For example, as a femboy who rides downhill, among other stupid dangerous activities, I can easily say that there are the “manliest” of “macho” dudes out there who are too scared to do what I do. We may have feminine qualities, but we sure as hell aren’t wusses. Which leads me to share my usual response to any negative comment I receive. “If I’m such a little sissy, then let’s see you nut up and openly represent as a feminine male in today’s society. See how hard it is, then you can call me whatever you want.”

2. Gender Identity/paradoxes: Above, I state a lot about how a femboy is a feminine male. However, anyone who so desires, may be a femboy. How you ask? Say “I’m a femboy.” This brings up many contradictions. Anyone who says “you can’t be _____ because _____.” Is merely stating an opinion. Any Individual has the right to identify themselves as they prefer, regardless of their biological sex. Yet, the definition of a femboy still remains, and should remain as; an individual who identifies as male and chooses to express feminine qualities within a spectrum of ways. If you don’t fit the parameters within that explanation, a viable statement would always be; “A femboy is typically considered _____, but I like to consider myself one regardless.

3. Motives/Desire: By this I mean, what makes you a femboy, or what makes you want to be a femboy? What would de-classify an individual from using the femboy tag is, if their motives are of sexual/fetishistic origins (i.e. just for fun.) Having these fetishistic desires is not necessarily bad or wrong. It’s the fact that the misuse of the identity tag of femboy by said individuals implements false negative stereotypes/pretences to those who hold the femboy tag close to them on a more personal, meaningful level. If what drives you to be a femboy is more along the lines of; you feeling more comfortable acting out the way you find to be natural for yourself, by staying in touch with your softer more feminine qualities because it makes you a happy and complete person, then you have what I would call “the greater good” of many, in a sea of reasons to call yourself a femboy.

4. Appearance: Why would you call yourself a femboy if you don’t try look like one? Because of your desire/motivations to be one perhaps? Of course, visual perceptions differ, and It’s not a gender tag at all, it’s more of a visual category label in many ways, such as; stud, tomboy, twink, scene, etc. To give an example; you don’t see any swagfags walking around calling their style scene, or punk. It just doesn’t work that way. If an individual chooses to look a certain way, they may choose to identify themselves as such via a label they are fond of, or personally choose to disregard labels altogether. There are femboys out there who don’t consider themselves femboys at all. Just regular people doing their own thing, labelling themselves whatever they see fit.

I did my best to explain/rewrite my previous theories. I’ve learned a lot since I wrote the original. If anyone sees areas that could use improvements, re-writes, or more accurate info, don’t be afraid to come spit on me about it.

~Kaiba

Anonymous

Anonymous asked:

Do you have a job? If yes do you keep feminity and stuff seperate from it? Or do you find a way to balance? Any tips for balancing or would it be best to keep it out? ;

muffinsthefemboy:

Unfortunately, I’m in the middle of searching for a job in hope’s I can find one more friendly to my kind of person in terms of personality and dress preference. There are LGBT friendly jobs and institutions that are the best if you intend to be “very feminine” during work. Otherwise I will offer more information as I get further insight and experience.

Good answer Muffins,

If I may add my two cents,

I have a job in the Silicon Valley area in tech. This place is fairly lenient in dress formality, and has a “business casual” vibe for the most part. Yet at first it proved a challenge to me on how to dress professional, and keep it effeminate, but I’ve found a few looks that work well, and are quite flippin’ cute. I should really jump on posting those, as I see muffins here gets asked about formal clothing for femboys a lot. It’s a fun topic really. Nobody expects the clean cut femboy in the workplace.

~Kaiba

adventusdawn asked:

I'm an aspiring femboy, I turn 18 in just a little over a week. I'm thin, tall, and fairly athletic, though by no means musclebound. But I really want to know how I can start getting curves, and dealing with facial angles especially. I think makeup may help with that, but I'm not sure where to start. Could you point me in the right direction, please? Thanks so much~!

Makeup can have many layers and intricacies. I’d say study makeup artists who do a lot of male to female work for movies and actors of sorts. (My best guess) Otherwise, all you need is a decent base and something to bring out your eyes a bit. (Just don’t go overboard at first)

Curves. Well. Guys usually don’t have ‘em. You gotta work with what you got. My personal strategy is; when I work out, I do low weight/high reps almost everywhere, but high weight/low reps for any exercise that works my thighs and bum to stack and build muscle. That’ll give you a little bit of a curvy placebo effect in the mirror.

~Kaiba

Anonymous

Anonymous asked:

Okayyyyyy, so yeah hiiiii x3, ummm do you remember the picture with your butt length sweater from kohls?? Well I've been looking for it EVERYWHERE but I cant find it anywhere :'( and i really want it!! So like did you get it in store or online?? Thanksssss love your blog btw :3

Got it in store, but I’m pretty sure they stopped selling them D:

And thanks dude!!!

~Kaiba

Anonymous

Anonymous asked:

I'm 5'6 and I identify as a femboy, but I'm not as slim as the others and I feel like people judge my pictures negativly from the other femboys because I'm as skinny as the other femboys. I really wanna slim down and I hate myself everytime I see the scale. Does my weight really matter? How should I slim down?

There’s nothing wrong with being on the chunky side as long as you’re healthfully active. People will judge people, it’s defensive human nature. Just ignore it. UNLESS you actually want to slim down for your own reasons. In which case, finding your daily calorie intake and reducing it by maybe 200 to 500 a day is a good way. Never do more as it will negatively affect your health. Never eat 3 hours before sleeping (makes a bigger difference than you’d think.) Hop outside and jog or just get some exercise in somewhere for an hour at least twice a week if you don’t already.

~Kaiba

Anonymous

Anonymous asked:

hi, I' m a femboy. I' m not self-confident and I' m shy (almost as a girl); I think I can't change any of this things becouse they are part of me, I' m really scared of being alone, becouse girls like femboys, but I have a lack of the classic male's self-confidence (which most of femboys had becouse usually they are more outgoing) I really don't know how to deal with it, I even asked a lesbian friend to find me a bisexual girlfriend... maybe she will like both my masculinity and femininity

First off, never say never. I’m more shy-erer than you I bet. You CAN change this part of you, and one day you will, because you’ll be tired of missing out and getting stepped on on account of not speaking up for yourself.

Secondly. There’s no need to be afraid of being “alone.” Most people are, but it’s a depressing and draining way to be. Learn to be a full, complete, happy person. Then find someone who is the same. If you walk into relationships leaning on the other person as you “other half,” it will crumble apart time after time. 

Thirdly, cut the crap with the generalizations. Femboys are ALL WORLDS APART in terms personality, habits, confidence levels, physicality, social interaction, psyche, etc. The only similarity we share is that we all embrace our anima instead of shunning it.

Lastly, if you search to find acceptance in others your whole life rather than acceptance and confidence within yourself, you’ll never be able achieve a stronger, happier state of mind. 

Best of luck dude, 

~Kaiba

Anonymous

Anonymous asked:

Hi, I'm 175 cm/5'9, I know femboys comes in all shapes in sizes as eagle said, but I want to get shorter! I was like 10 cm(even more) shorter last year, I was tall as a girl pratically, but now I'm taller than other boys, it really gives me problems, I want a neutral height, I'm also a cosplayer and this height is too tall! can you please give me any tips? I know it's really stupid to say, but I don't care if I hurt my back or anything, I want to be shorter.

Dude, this is a really dangerous thing to consider. I’m 5-7 and would still like to be a tad shorter, but height is one of those things that you can’t control. I believe Eagle is quite tall himself. Around 6 feet if I remember correctly, and look how great he looks! Tall is just as good as short. They both have their ups and downs (no pun intended) Fashion models are all required to be quite tall, and most clothing fits better to a certain degree. Be proud of your hight! look down and see all those enlarged awe-struck pupils staring up at you!

Go out there and rock it dude!

~Kaiba

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